Have you noticed how easy it is to make judgements about other people? We are trained from an early age to notice what's wrong with us and those around us. How? Think of your test grades as a child. You may have received a 98 on a test, but you got 2 wrong. We ignore the fact that you got 98 right. It's those 2 wrong that get marked in red. I wonder how we would have turned out if the teacher put a huge smiley fact on everything we got right instead.
We are encouraged to speak negatively about ourselves. If we admit how wonderful and talented we really are, it means we are bragging and too full of pride. Moreover, liking yourself and how you look can be considered vain. Obviously anything in extremes sends us out of balance, but most of us never get the chance to admit we may be good at something. We are programmed to keep the good stuff to ourselves. Often we feel embarrassed when someone highlights our accomplishments.
This spills over into our outlook on life. We spend useless time worrying about how we will pay the bills. We wonder if a person likes us. And we spend too much time looking outside of ourselves for the answers. Also, to distract ourselves from our own insecurities, we easily find fault in others. Often it isn't malicious. Just the other day I noticed that a young girl carried her weight in a very odd way. In truth I felt bad for her because I could imagine her being picked on in high school. Yet I noticed that although I felt sympathy for the girl, I was also judging her. Why couldn't she be fine just the way she was? Why did I have to take time out of my day and focus my thoughts on how different she was?
Today, observe your thoughts and notice what you put your focus on. Thoughts create, so don't waste time judging others or yourself. Everything is perfect the way it is, it's only our thinking that makes it good or bad. Today just notice the world around you and leave the judgements home.